New Skills, New Amazing
She came into the door with infused with sunshine.
“Mum, what’s something that represents you?” she asked. “Like a song, or an animal or a plant … anything.”
OK I say excited, Its a tree, “Mine’s a sloth.” she says
Over the next hour she told us about a video they had watched in assembly soul pancake, “kid President”. It wasn’t about performance, but purpose. As she showed me clip after clip, she said here is the best one Mum, this ones about Mums.
It went on to say we as mums should appreciate ourselves and not compare ourselves to other mums in the school yard or his/her friends mums. We shouldn’t beat ourselves up about our children attending the most dance classes or playing the most sports, or winning the most sporting accolades, or going to the lasted fitness classes or being a super mum. This is what we are trying to teach our kids not to do and here we are doing just that!
I watched her — animated, engaged and delivering a teen-perfect parody of a motivational speaker — I realised how much we focus on what our kids do, not who they are. Indeed, how much we judge everyone — including ourselves — on tasks accomplished rather than vision or ideas or character.
We become an antidote to school reports and trophies and certificates for excellence and achievement.
Purpose, passion and vision have become buzzwords of this new era where we try to live lives that resonate with our values. But largely they’re delivered in sports changing rooms or offices or at team building workshops when the boss is trying to raise morale.
But what if we got in and asked kids to consider these issues earlier. Instead of asking them what they want to do when they grow up let’s ask them what genuinely matters to them, what makes them excited and what they might awaken if they really know who they are.
What would it be like to be surrounded by a community who supported one another to embrace imperfection and practice authentic values?
“It’s actually our ability to embrace imperfection that will help us teach our children to have the courage to be authentic, the compassion to love themselves and others, and the sense of connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life” says Brene Brown
My darling know how awesome you are. All of the changes going on inside you are steering you in the direction of something amazing. Things won’t always go to plan, and some days will be awful. As long as you’re making the best decisions you can to stay safe, you’ll look back on these times and you’ll laugh. The mistakes, the falls, the embarrassing moments – one day those stories will be gold.
And finally …
All new skills take time to master. It’s no different for our children. In the meantime, they might wobble. A lot. So will we. We are learning to see them in a different light.